Commands
Commands are clear and specific instructions that are likely to be understood and acted upon. Commands explain what the parent or caregiver’s expectation is in a way that increases the likelihood of it being followed. Example, “Please put the dirty clothes on the floor into the hamper,” rather than “Clean your floor.” Sometimes commands are used to set limits on a child’s behavior. Example: “Come home by 10:00 p.m.” Rather than: “Don’t stay out late.”
What should my therapist be doing?
Describing how to give effective instructions
Explaining the importance of giving effective instructions
Practicing this new skill with your child
What should I be doing?
Practicing this skill in and outside of therapy session
Praising your child whenever they follow instructions correctly
Asking questions of your therapist as needed (e.g., Why didn’t my child listen to this specific direction that I used with them?)
How will I know if it is working?
Your child follows instructions more often
Protests and other non-compliant behaviors occur less often
There is an overall improvement in your relationship with your child (e.g. as your child becomes better at following instructions, you become less frustrated with them).
